Generation Gap 1. Read the text. Old people are always saying that the young are not what they were. The same comment is made from generation to generation and is always true; it has never been truer than it is today. These days, grown-ups describe children as «difficult», «rude», «wild» and «irresponsible». Only some people say that they will grow up to make our country a better place. For kids from 8 to 14 a new term «tweens» has recently been coined. They are no longer children nor yet teenagers, just between – tweens. They are said to be a generation in a fearful hurry to grow up.
Instead of playing with Barbies and Lego they are interested in the vagaries of love on TV serials. Girls wear provocative make-up. At this very age kids start pairing off. Tweens have got an insatiable desire for the latest in everything – from jeans with labels so that everyone will know that they’ve got the latest stuff – to CDs. Kids at their age desperately need to belong and that’s why everything comes down to appearance. They think that having the right «stuff» is the quickest way to acceptance. To parents and teachers they can be a nightmare, aping the hairstyles, clothes and make-up of celebrities twice their age.
Experts say that the rush to grow up is due to the mass media. Being raised by single-parent families as well as watching TV, which sucks up most of their free time, can also accelerate the desire of children for being independent and creates behaviour problems. But the most painful part of childhood is the period when they begin to emerge from it: adolescence or the awkward age. There is a complete lack of self-confidence during this time. Adolescents are over conscious of their appearance and the impression they make on others.
They feel shy, awkward and clumsy. Feelings are intense and hearts – easily broken. Teenagers experience moments of tremendous elation or black despair. And besides friends are becoming more and more important these yeas. At schools there are cliques who decide what is «cool». Adolescents may rebel violently against parental authority, but this causes them great unhappiness. And they are not always helped to get through a confusion of life in a steady, productive way. But even teenagers with sympathetic and supportive parents can fall in with bad company.
Most children don’t belong to any clubs and they just start roaming the street after school out of sheer boredom. A lot of them become addicted to drugs and/or alcohol because their life is hollow and they don’t think of life-long goals. They have nothing to fill the emptiness of their souls with. They demand to have all that they see, and regard it as their right to be entertained every waking moment. And besides our society is becoming more and more stratified. There has appeared a class of rich people and a class of poor people (to be more exact – people leaving below the poverty line).
Children of well-off parents consider themselves «the smart set» or «gilded youth». Their parents give them every material benefit, pocket money any time they ask. A lot of these children have their own brand-new cars and personal computers. It goes without saying that it causes jealousy and the desire to possess the same things on the part of children whose parents are poor and cannot afford it. Such feelings can push teenagers to committing a crime and it leads to a wide spread of juvenile delinquency. Nowadays children start using computers very early.
Tweens and teens are so fascinated by them that they spend hours and hours at their personal computers or at computer clubs. The electronic universe replaces their contacts with friends and dominates their life completely. Obsession with computers brings about a mechanical, disillusioned mentality and inhibits their emotional development. The heads of youngsters are also being filled with violent pictures they have seen on TV. Children are very naive and impressionable. And no wonder that they are so aggressive and arrogant in real life. They are thrown into such a harsh world, especially if they live in a city.
These days a lot of parents think that they should be lenient with their children, they should let them find out about life for themselves, they should leave children to develop their own idea of right and wrong. But it’s a grave mistake. Parents should try to protect their children from possible bad influences and give them clear guidance about right and wrong. There is no way to predict how today’s children will turn out. Keeping faith in kids is necessary. They are not bad. They are optimistic. They expect to have a better life than their parents’.
And grown-ups – if they are prepared to admit it – could learn a thing or two from their children. One of the biggest lessons they could learn is that enjoyment is not «sinful». Enjoyment is a principle you could apply to all aspects of life. It is not wrong to enjoy your work and enjoy your leisure, to shed restricting inhibitions. It is surely not wrong to live in the present rather than in the past or future. This emphasis on the present is only to be expected because the young have grown up under the constant threat of World War III, which means complete annihilation.
This is their «glorious» heritage. Can we be surprised that they question the wisdom and sanity of their elders? Home Life 1. Read the text. Along with all the demands at school, you may also have more at home. If your parents have high expectations for you, they may pressure you about what your plans are after you graduate from high school. Remember they only want the best for you. Their mission is to guide you to succeed in life. However, how overwhelming is it to please everyone in your life? You want to satisfy your friends, your teachers, and your parents but something has to give.
Let your parents know some of things that you are going through. They may surprise you, since they went through something similar at one time. In turn, you may be on the other side of the spectrum; your parents may be uninvolved in your life. They may not care about who your friends are and about your education. You may be going through other issues at home such as domestic violence, alcohol and drug use or neglect. You are feeling scared, unsupported, and overwhelmed. Finding Support If you cannot turn to your parents, find another adult to confide in.
A teacher is a great option to discuss any issues you are having about yourself, your friends, schoolwork, or home life. All schools have guidance counselors and they are there to help you. So take the time and get some support at this difficult time. There are many difficulties in adolescence. It is good to know that this period in time will only last for a few short years. It is all to prepare you to enter into adulthood with knowledge and self-confidence. Get the support you need from the people you trust and hold on, it will be over before you know it. How to Cope with Adults . Read the text. When a person grows up the world changes in his eyes. First, being a child, one sees only a part of it. He watches his parents live in this world, he listens to them and remembers what then do and wants to repeat after them. A child doesn’t argue much with his parents as he only knows their way of doing things. Time passes and a child becomes a teenager. It always makes the cooperation between parents and children more difficult. I think that the main conflicts start when a person realizes, that he is old enough not to live within parents’ rules and regulations.
One wants more freedom than he has, thinks that his parents take too much care of him. To parents their children are always small, they are worried about their son of daughter and don’t allow them to do many things the young ones would like to. Grownups and teenagers often argue about going out late in the evening. Parents are afraid that something bad would happen and don’t allow their children out. On the other side children don’t understand their parents’ motives, think that they are too strict and get angry. Children also don’t like when their parents ask where they are going to and with whom.
They get embarrassed being compared to someone else. The young also argue much about household chores. The trouble is both sides are sure it is them who is in the right. When nobody wants to see the opponent’s point of view nothing is achieved, but a mass argument. That’s why it is necessary for a teenager not only to tell his parents what he thinks, but be prepared to listen to them as well. One has to discuss the problems calmly, to try to understand his parents, to find the compromise. But if nothing helps, it is quite clever to solve the problem with the psychologist.